5 Signs You’re in a Toxic Relationship & How to Cope with it

Relationships should be a space where you feel safe and loved. Ideally, being with someone else makes you feel stronger and more confident.

However, sometimes a relationship can start to feel heavy or confusing. Instead of bringing you joy, it might leave you feeling tired and unsure of yourself. It is important to look at your connections honestly to make sure they are actually good for you. Learning the difference between a rough patch and an unhealthy relationship is the first step toward protecting your peace.

What is a Toxic Relationship?

A toxic relationship is a connection that consistently drains your energy rather than supporting you. It is built on things like control and chaos instead of mutual respect. Ms Lovleena Singh, clinical psychologist at BetterPlace, explains that toxicity develops when one partner keeps gaslighting, emotionally manipulating, and invalidating the other person’s emotions and decisions. Over time, this leads to a diminished sense of self.

Toxicity can be very quiet at first. Ms. Lovleena notes that toxic behaviour, such as gaslighting, often shows up subtly. This is where a partner twists reality until you question your own feelings. The person showing these patterns might behave “hot and cold.” While they manipulate and control decision-making, the person on the receiving end often suffers from constant self-doubt, low self-esteem, and overthinking. Essentially, if a healthy relationship helps you grow, a toxic one keeps pulling you down until your life starts revolving entirely around the partner.

Types of Toxic Relationship Patterns

Toxicity can happen in any kind of bond, including romantic partners, family members, friends, or coworkers. Ms. Lovleena points out that certain traits increase the risk of these unhealthy dynamics. People who display extreme mood swings, self-harm tendencies, or controlling behavior often struggle to maintain healthy bonds. Sometimes, gender roles and financial control create an unfair power balance where one partner feels entitled to dominate the other.

Family issues are often the hardest because you cannot easily walk away from them. Romantic issues are confusing because your deep feelings can make it hard to detach emotionally and see the truth.

5 Signs You Are in a Toxic Relationship

1. Constant Criticism and Belittlement
There is a big difference between a partner helping you grow and a partner tearing you down. Ms. Lovleena explains that over time, repeated criticism wears you down. Your partner keeps questioning your choices and feelings until you believe their version of you more than your own. These are classic signs of toxic relationship dynamics where you are made to feel small.

2. Emotional Manipulation and Gaslighting
Gaslighting is a way to make you doubt your own memory and feelings. You might start thinking, “Maybe I am overreacting” or “Maybe it is my fault.” Ms. Lovleena emphasizes that in these cases, the confusion itself becomes the tool for the other person to control you.

3. Isolation from Friends and Family
A toxic person often wants to keep you away from people who might help you. They want your attention centered entirely on them so you only listen to their perspective. Over time, your world shrinks until you stop seeing the people who truly care about you.

4. Walking on Eggshells Daily
This is a physical feeling of staying alert all the time. You avoid saying or doing anything that may trigger your partner’s bad mood. You spend all your energy preventing fights rather than being yourself. You focus entirely on their happiness just to keep a temporary sense of peace.

5. Physical or Verbal Aggression
Shouting, insults, and threats are clear signs of danger. Ms. Lovleena warns that even if it happens only occasionally, it destroys safety and trust. Bad behavior usually gets worse over time, and you should never wait for it to get more dangerous before taking it seriously.

How to Overcome a Toxic Relationship?

1. Acknowledge the Patterns
Naming the behavior helps you stop blaming yourself. Ms. Lovleena suggests that recognizing the pattern allows you to stop the self-blame. Admitting that someone you love is hurting you is a sign of immense strength.

2. Build Your Support System
Talk to trusted friends, family, or a therapist. Having support helps you gain clarity and reminds you of who you were before the relationship began.

3. Set Clear Personal Boundaries
Decide what behavior you will no longer tolerate and communicate this calmly and consistently. For example, you might decide to leave the room if the other person starts calling you names. Boundaries are simply rules for how you expect to be treated.

4. Create a Safety Exit Plan
If the relationship becomes unsafe, you need a plan. Ms. Lovleena advises planning exactly where to go, whom to call, and how to protect yourself. Keep your important documents and some money in a safe place so you can leave quickly if you need to.

Moving Forward

Healing takes time. You learn to trust yourself again and rebuild your confidence. Ms. Lovleena notes that recovery means choosing environments that respect you. Working with a therapist is very helpful during this time to understand the patterns that kept you stuck and help restore your sense of agency.

Frequently Asked Questions

Can a toxic relationship ever become healthy? Ms. Lovleena says that sometimes this is possible, but only if the partner recognizes their behavior, stays open to understanding it, and genuinely works on it through therapy. It remains a conscious choice.

What is the difference between toxic behaviour and normal conflict? Normal conflicts stay respectful. People stay mindful of what they say and discuss the current issue instead of attacking the person. In toxic relationship arguments, the goal is often to hurt and pull the other person down.

Should I confront my partner about their behavior? Ms. Lovleena suggests doing so with clarity. First, identify the patterns and share how their behavior affects you instead of blaming or accusing. If they agree to work on it, professional help can support you both.